Real Men – Guest post by Julian

Julian is a one-of-a-kind man and I’m so pleased to have him guest blog here on Song of Virginity. His blog Julian for Jesus is a genuine, passionate and loving blog – I bet you would want to go check it out, once you’ve read his post here:

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Before I say anything I would like to make it very clear that sex in and of itself is not a sin, it is a creation of God used to join two individuals together, express love and affection and to reproduce. Sex becomes a sin if it is before marriage, and/or with people other than your spouse and/or with someone of the same gender.

MY STORY

Growing up my generation viewed virginity as a weight that needed to be lifted off of our shoulders. Personally I hated this perspective, not because I was a goodie two shoes or had a righteous view on sex at the time, but because I was absolutely TERRIFIED of being intimate with someone. So much so that when I had the opportunity to lose my proverbial V card at 13 I prayed that it wouldn’t work out.man-praying

Lord I pray that somehow you can get me out of having sex today! Thank you! Amen!

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Thankfully God answered that prayer!!! 

 

But of course this wouldn’t be the only pressuring situation that I would find myself in. My family was quite fond of the idea of a male losing his virginity early. It was a common view that the longer you went without losing your “innocence” the more of a “loser” you were. When some family members of mine got wind of the fact that “IT” didn’t go down when it was supposed to, I was given an ultimatum; either lose my virginity by 16 or they would bring me to a brothel and pay for me to have my first sexual experience.

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Me: are you serious?

The pressure as a young teen to lose your virginity was so heavy that in order to relieve himself of the “shame”, a friend of mine with great lament gave his virginity to a girl in our neighborhood that was known to sleep around with several different men.
To my surprise he wasn’t scrutinized a bit for it, in fact it seemed as though people deemed it to be better to lose your virginity to someone who “got around” than to still be a virgin. The tables were actually turned on me and I was asked why I still haven’t done it yet. We were about sixteen at the time so to me this was befuddling.

QUESTION

Why encourage someone so young to have sex and before they are ready? Why do high schools, middle schools and even a couple of elementary schools hand out condoms to their students? Why is a sex symbol like Kim Kardashian making appearances at the kids choice awards?

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Satan tries his best to attack you in your adolescence so when you become an adult he doesn’t have to work as hard to get you to stumble or fall. He sets you up with preconceived notions about love, sex, marriage and God so that when you grow up and read about the right way of doing things, you find that it is contrary to what society approves of and you become indifferent and are less inclined to abide by the laws that God established. Essentially when we become adults and study our bibles we have to reprogram the mind that Satan molded throughout our childhood.

QUESTION

Why is premarital sex glorified in the media today? Why are men praised for having sexual relations with multiple partners and why are women looking for moral equality in this category?

CONCLUSION

489_make-her-want-it-more-1037692-TwoByOne.jpgAfter convincing the world that sex is permissible outside the confines of marriage, Satan decided to make it a matter of equal moral rights. Women would like to be praised or at least not ridiculed for having many partners. This just creates a demand for equal dispense of pleasantries in regards to sinning. Two wrongs don’t make a right but it all starts with our behavior as males. We have to stop praising one another for wrongdoings and start encouraging each other to resist temptation.
Sexual tension is one of the hardest things to ignore.
When you feel yourself getting riled up with lust and you quiver beneath your loins, the only thing you seek is to relieve yourself of this sultry sensation that overwhelms your body. This is why it is such a pivotal weapon for Satan to use against us. It is way too difficult to ignore our flesh when it craves satisfaction.

As MEN OF GOD we have to practice self control Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God;”

999999.pngThe world glorifies debauchery but we as Christian men are called to be different because all of what we do represents God and Gods word says,
“But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people” (Ephesians 5:3),
and “be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”(Romans 12:2).

 

Please understand that sexual immorality is not just a matter of “if I sin God will be upset with me.” Every time temptation knocks on your door a war breaks out in the spiritual realm and whenever you give in to a lust you are giving control to other worldly beings who are dedicated to bringing about your destruction.16c6d133dfa5e372c18352f3e54bb76b.jpg
Ephesians 6:12 “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”

We are legitimate warriors for Christ and if we are with the world we stand against Jesus and will one day be judged by Him. So it is important that every day we suit up for the Lord and combat the world instead.
Dawn the full armor of God and silence your flesh!
Gain control and be a REAL MAN!!! 
Set an example that women and younger generations can look up to.

Waiting for marriage isn’t just saving yourself for the perfect woman. It is a beautiful example of obedience and reverence for God. It also is a showing of true strength and self control.
Don’t just be a man; Be an illustration of a Godly man.

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24 thoughts on “Real Men – Guest post by Julian

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  2. It is refreshing to read a man’s take on this matter!

    When I was growing up, my mother touted that sex was only for marriage. So, in a twisted take, I thought if I had sex with a guy it was like being his wife. I know that’s super crazy, but when I lost my V at 17 I thought marrying the older man (a college student from Japan) was a forgone conclusion.

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    1. “It is refreshing to read a man’s take on this matter!” This is the very reason why Lene asked me to write this haha she wanted a males perspective on the matter. I am so thankful it was refreshing to you! Your interpretation of the message delivered to you is quite interesting as well. What ever happened to you and The Japanese man? Did you get married? If so are you still married?

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      1. I married him at 18. We were married 12 years. I will sum up the result of that by saying he has been in a U S prison for the past 10. Yep. So much for losing my V young and hoping he was Prince Charming!

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  3. Awesome and well said! Too bad so many people — especially young people — view sex as a casual recreational activity, and not as the special intimate act of love between two committed and married adults whom God created it for.

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  4. In Genesis 2 the Bible says:
    “21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.

    23 And Adam said:

    “This is now bone of my bones
    And flesh of my flesh;
    She shall be called Woman,
    Because she was taken out of Man.”

    24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

    25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.”
    – – – – – – – – – –

    we see that God created marriage:
    1. Man leaves his father and mother – Creates his own authority and family.
    2. Man is joined to his wife – has sex with her.
    3. God makes them one flesh: “They shall become one flesh.” – explained by Jesus in Matt 19:

    In Matthew 19 Jesus says,
    “4 And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made[a] them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’[b] 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?[c] 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.””

    3. continued … “and the two shall become one flesh’?[c] 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.””

    So, when a virgin has sex with a man, God joins them spiritually, supernaturally, and they are then married, one flesh. There is no ceremony or vows, not that those cannot also be done. But it is when the virgin woman has sex with a man that she is then married to that man. So women are married to whom they give their virginity. Sex is what makes the marriage because God does something there that man is not able to separate. All other sex after that, if not with one’s spouse – the one to whom she gave her virginity – is adultery.

    This is why the church preaches not to have sex until married because sex actually makes you married.

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  7. Great post Julian and as a brother in Christ and brother in arms I am glad to have you out there speaking the truth.
    You all you Christian fence sitters who do not have the courage to speak up “Man up”. Get in the fight.
    I post at messagefromthefield.com and will posting on the subject from the pov of the defenseless victims in this fight.Children.
    “This woman you gave me” is the post title.
    Thank you for your courage and conviction to speak out.

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